“And now, I seek grace.”
— Humbly. Simply.
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Anonymous asked:
Any advice on what to do if you're Daddy is too busy for you? We're LD and he tries to send a msg a day but even that's work for him cause he's so busy. I don't have any tasks and I try to send him things he'd like which he responds positively to but I don't feel very engaged w/ him anymore, like I don't feel owned at all. It's like talking to a wall (a pleasant wall but a wall). I don't want to stress him out more or top from the bottom but I just feel so disconnected.
instructor144 answered:
Bullshit. No one is “so busy” that they can’t manage one lousy message a day. I’ve sent check-in messages between meetings standing at the urinal in the bathroom. No contact? No excuses.
You know that movie “maybe he’s just not that into you”?
Yeah. When men are interested in you, they fucken let. you. know. And when they’re not, it’s never that hard to tell. If it’s not obvious that he wants to spend time with you, then he doesn’t want to spend time with you.
Listen to that little voice inside your head screaming “my needs aren’t being met” and then make like a tree and leave.
he could be honest and *tell her* he’s not interested anymore, too. if she’s feeling anxious about their connection or lack thereof, she needs to use her words, too, and ask him straight up.
but other than that, you’re very right.
If they care, they will make time, reshuffle their priorities for you. It’s not rocket fucking science. It takes just a minute to send a message.
It really is all about prioritizing…
If you aren’t getting the time you need - you aren’t at the top of the priority list.
And while that sucks, it’s up to you to decide if you can accept that.
It doesn’t necessarily make the other party the “bad guy”.
My Vision Of Our Tumblr Replacement
I started on Tumblr soon after it was created with a vanilla blog. Since then, hardly a day has gone by that Tumblr wasn’t a part of my life. I have made excellent friends on Tumblr over the years. In fact, MOST of my friends came from relationships I made via Tumblr. The precious, bubbly cupcake that is in my bed? Tumblr. So you can imagine how painful Tumblr’s announcement has been for me.
I love seeing the marginalized communities that are shunned elsewhere on Planet Earth have a safe place to exist and be themselves. It always made me smile when I see a Tumblr blogger ease out of their shells, steadfastly into the world.
Well, that shit is no more.
As some of you may have noticed I started a community effort to rescue these communities. I want everyone involved because it will be our garden, our club, our safe space to be ourselves.
And the new site (name to be withheld until we have something to show) is not just for kinksters, I want vanillas too; artists, witches, horror writers, brewmeisters, budtenders, book sluts, fandoms of all types, beat poets, wilderness photographers, Burners, vampire hunters, Dungeons and Dragons players, and rocket scientists. Hell, I want people who just want to blog about cats and cabins in the woods.
What we won’t tolerate are bullies, minors, Nazis (and their fucked up allies), abusers or trolls. They can fuck right off to a cesspool of their choice.
I am putting up the cash to get this started PLUS I am making this a community effort, that is why I am being so transparent about the process with our Discord planning group. Yes, it is chaos. We have taken on an INSANE project to get done in less than 2 weeks. Well, 9 days now.
This isn’t my first rodeo. I am actively trying to keep my anonymity as long as I can, but I know it will soon be spugged out in due order soon. You will then see what I have done in the past and learn about a very vanilla project that has been near and dear to my heart. You have probably heard of it and maybe even participated!
The beta site will not be perfect. It will be good but not perfect. Hell, we have been suffering with “far from perfect” with Tumblr now for years. It is my hope that our community can put up with our rough edges for a little while.
Where we are tonight is pretty good. We have selected a host, got our software loaded, installed the Linux packages required and are now getting those packages to play nice with one another. We had it working for a bit until a small issue with the registration page required some elbow work.
I am working on the branding and marketing with a bunch of really smart pervs in our Discord group. I am really proud of all of our volunteers and want to thank them all.
If you want to volunteer or simply eat popcorn and watch the porn riots, please use this invite link: https://discord.gg/jVempgb
Remember, Discord is just the site we are using for planning, not the actual site we are moving to.
Many of you have asked about the Library For Kinksters, it will be archived and placed on the now site.
We plan to allow you to import your Tumblr blog over to our new site but Tumblr may have other ideas. Other services have been using Tumblr’s API for exporting and now Tumblr now seems to be shutting down that API functionality.
That is all for now. Keep your heads held high and remember you are ALL FUCKING AMAZING PEOPLE!
- Dominant Life
P.S. Please reblog the shit out of this. Santa may drop a slutty elf off at your house for Christmas!
P.P.S. Oh and pirates. I really want pirates on the site too!
The new site has a name now, Mojo Fire!
Backup Tumblr Blogs - 2017
There are a lot of methods here. I’ve used the wordpress method but with that you get EVERYTHING with not much control. The one that gives me the most control (and imo the best) is tumblr-utils by bbolli on github. It can be daunting for those who aren’t familiar with command line, however. They do have a Windows guide (tumblr_backup_for_beginners) which walks you through step by step on setting it up and getting it started.
Below is my version of the guide with some helpful tips not mentioned, under read more for length.